Everyone will experience disappointments at some point in their lives. The one thing that matters is how they deal with it.
As Henry Ward Beecher said,” one’s best success comes after their greatest disappointment”. With this in mind, we should begin to see our disappointments as an opportunity to thrive in our desired area of interest when we equip ourselves with the right attitude and skills.
This post will help you to learn how to become better with disappointments and succeed.
Let’s look at the definition of disappointment to understand the subject matter.
Disappointment is the feelings associated with dissatisfaction when things don’t go according to plan.
An article written by bestpsychologydegrees.org explained the psychology of disappointments and how it affects our body. I would recommend you to read and understand the psychological and physiological impact of disappointments on our body.
Moreover, no one is exempted from disappointments in life. It is parts and parcel of our lives. The earlier we learn to accept disappointments and develop coping strategies in dealing with it, the more we embrace it as a norm.
Therefore, looking at your disappointments as an opportunity to learn and grow would help you in all aspect of life.
Remember any job interview, you attended, performed badly. As a result, you didn’t get the job. I will assume you didn’t give up on job hunting but persisted until you got your desired job. ( this is simply what my point is)
Funnily enough, we encounter disappointments all the time, but we become discouraged from giving it another chance because we fail to acknowledge the possibilities of disappointments.
Your responses may be that we are humans, and we have feelings.
Ok, I concur with you ………………….
But I say this because we spend way too much time dealing with our disappointments when it comes to failed relationships, losing a job or competition etc.
So, acknowledging that we gave it our best shot and accepting all responsibilities or faults, will make our recovery quicker.
I am not against grieving for your loss. What you do after grieving is what determines your future.
A question for you today!
What are you going to do after grieving for your disappointments?. Please don’t be offended, but what do you exactly plan to gain from dwelling on it for a long time?.
I know you’ll probably say Jaycee you wouldn’t understand the hell I have been through. Don’t get me wrong; I validate your hellish experiences, and I am so sorry that you had to go through that painful journey.
I hope reading this would help you find the strength to turn your awful experiences into an opportunity to live life to the fullness because we only get one shot at life.
One other purpose that prompted me to write this was witnessing how people I know have missed great opportunities because of fear of disappointments and failures.
I too have been there, but it took a paradigm shift in thinking regarding disappointments to change my life for good.
As I have seen the benefits of recognising disappointments as an opportunity to exhale. I wholeheartedly want to encourage whoever reading this post to change their mindset so they will succeed in their area of interest.
So, Are you ready to change?.
Perfect !. Keep reading to discover ways to succeed after disappointments. Earlier on, I mentioned nothing prepares us for this life experience called Disappointments. I feel this subject matters should’ve been incorporated into our school curriculum to prepare us for the future. ( sound funny, right!).
Well, growing up, I often heard that disappointments are just God’s way of saying “I’ve got something better’. Be patient, live life and have faith. To be honest, I have held unto those words and realised they were damn right
For you to become successful in life, you must rise above your disappointments and try again.
There are a few options to choose from when we are faced with challenges. We may choose to deal with it, ignore it or just give up.
The choice is yours.
However, when I’m faced with disappointments, I would normally go back to the drawing board and reassess the best option available.
So, if you do want to make the change now.
I will give you a moment to think about your options and pencil it down on paper.
Personally, there is only one option for me which is to face my challenges head-on and succeed.
How about you?
If you are still in doubt about your options. Just hang in there! This topic may help you realise it’s not yet over. Bear in mind you still have a chance to fight and turn your disappointments into great opportunities.
This battle is won when you believe you can and will fight until the end. As you know that nothing great comes easy and great fights aren’t a walk in the park. It requires self-determination and inner strength to succeed.
Believe me, it well worth your time and effort if you give it another chance. Remember along the way, bruises, betrayals, and times you will feel like throwing in the towel even feel the fear of failure looming again.
Don’t give up just yet!. Set your gaze on your set goal, and you will come through.
Honestly, it saddens me when I hear people say I rather not set goals to avoid disappointments. Not to sound so judgemental, but how can one live life with no dreams, goals and aspirations?. Are you living or just existing?
Some people may have had it so rough in life to have concluded with such a decision, but I employ you to reconsider and give life one more chance.
I hope this post will convince you to live life again and stop letting your disappointments hold you back. The paragraph below will discuss how you can become successful after your disappointment.
How To Become Better with Disappointments and Succeed.
1.Allow Yourself Time To Process Your Emotion After Your Disappointments.
Processing your emotion is so important when you encounter disappointments or setbacks in life. Don’t internalise it or ignore the emotions you are feeling. If you need to cry then do it. Some people find it liberating.
The danger of internalising your emotion is that it impacts your mental health and delays your healing process. You run the risk of imploding, which is detrimental to both your physical and mental health.
2.Accept Where You Are, Be Kind To Yourself And Look After Your Mental health.
Learn to accept responsibility for the action that may have caused your present disappointments if any. This would help you identify areas for improvement and influence change for a better outcome next time.
Acknowledging you are not a disappointment is always something to keep in mind and remember your present situation is temporary. Don’t hold yourself to ransom about the situation. Forgive yourself, just the way you would forgive others. Being kind to yourself shows the power of acceptance and growth.
Disappointments can take a toll on our mental and emotional wellbeing, so looking after your mental health is crucial. I would recommend one of my blog post on how to best look after your mental health.
3.Take A Breather, Practice Self-Care And Refocus On What Matters.
Now, take a short break to rest.
Practice self-care by doing those things that will help you feel better.For self-care tips. Have a look at my self-care blog post this will help you immensely, it’s packed with ideas. https://jayceepassionblog.com/30-practical-self-care-for-busy-people-self-care/.
Some disappointments/setbacks could come with life-changing situations. So, Consider yourself lucky if you made it out in one piece. Therefore, focus on the valuable things in your life right now. Try as much as possible to surround yourself with positive-minded people and don’t compare yourself with others.
Comparing where you are with others will steal the remaining strength and joy left in your life. So, Stay On Your Lane!.
4. Speak To A Trusted Person About Your Situation.
There is nothing like bearing it all to someone who cares. I know its not the case for everyone. This has always worked for me whenever I had dealt with life blows. I find it releases the pressure off me and help me to see things differently.
Talking about it to someone sometimes brings about solutions and ideas on dealing with the situation. This may help you see if your disappointment was realistic or whether you need to adjust your expectations.
5.Learn From Your Disappointments And Put Things In Perspective.
I know this point is probably the last thing on your mind and might sound crazy at this point when the feelings of disappointment remain fresh on your mind. I totally understand your plight but rather than spending your time ruminating on what happened.
Start shifting your thinking about what you may have learnt from this experience.
I believe there is an opportunity to learn and grow in every setback in life. This might not seem obvious at this point but pause and ask yourself what you would have done differently. Think of one or two things you have learnt about yourself going through the disappointments/ setbacks.
Are there areas you need to work on to improve yourself ?
Do you need to seek professional support or enrol on a course to improve your skills?
Do you need to create work -life balance to boost productivity ?
Let me know how you got on in the comment sections.
6.Realise Opportunity In Your Disappointments.
If you were able to answer some of the questions above and have learned something about your disappointments. Then, I believe you are on the right path.
Take your focus off your anxiety and disappointments, and you will come out better than gold.
I understand it can be hard to motivate yourself again after several accounts of disappointments; that’s why the 8 Powerful motivation strategies to succeed will take you on the journey to rekindling your passion and fulfilling your purpose.
In conclusion, I would like to encourage you to start seeing your disappointments as an opportunity to grow and succeed in all your endeavours.
So, let me know how this post has helped you and share how you have turn your disappointment into success.
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